Put A Stop to Bullying

Don’t Let Your Child Be a Victim of Bullying

Bullying VictimSchool will be here again before we know it, and unfortunately kids these days have to worry about more than just getting good grades and fitting in.  They have to be aware of bullying.  Dr. Janell Dietz, author of the new book Motivation to Sensation, is also a school counselor, and has witnessed firsthand the devastating impact that bullying can have on kids.

Dr. Dietz says that at least one-third of teens are experiencing some form of bullying right now, including: name calling, manipulation, physical abuse, gossip and rumors, mocking, and cyber bullying.

She offers these tips on what to do if your kids are the victim of bullying:

  • Bullies pick out victims they see as weaker than themselves.  When confronted, ignore the bully, walk away and show no facial reaction.  The bully is looking for the entertainment of seeing your face turn red, angry expressions, and yelling in protest.  Do not give the bully the satisfaction of knowing he or she got to you.
  • Report the bully to your school counselor, religious leader or basically anyone in an authority role.
  • If you are being cyber bullied, show the emails to your parents or guardian.  Do not respond to the emails and block the person from having contact with you on all social media sites.  The cyber bully is trying to provoke you and if you keep going back and forth with more anger each time, you will lose the battle.
  • You never want to show a bully that he or she did in fact stir you up, but relieving that anger is important for your emotional health.  Go to the gym, use a punching bag, talk to a friend, pray about it, do something to boost your self-esteem, or whatever works for you.
  • Start a club or school organization and make it known your school and community has a no bullying policy.  Bullies are going to find it harder to target kids who make it known they won’t allow themselves to become a victim.

Dietz says bullying is a crime and has led to many deaths and suicides, and it shouldn’t be taken lightly even at the smallest sign it is going on.

Self-Esteem Is More Than Body Image

Self-Esteem Is More Than Body Image

self-esteem, teen depressionTeenage problems can be much bigger issues than we as parents might think. In fact struggling teens can display many different signs of low self esteem that we simply overlook because we don’t recognize them. With this in mind, it’s important to understand some simple signs to look for in your teenagers when it comes to depression, low self esteem and an overall unhappy persona.

Defensiveness

When your struggling teen tends to get jumpy and defensive during regular conversations, they may be feeling like they need to defend themselves due to a lack of self esteem and confidence. Asking your teen for their opinions and making a point to respect their views when talking to them can help with this issue.

Irritability

Most teenagers display some signs of irritability and rebellion while growing up but then the mood swings become intolerable or start showing up more often than not, it’s time to take a step back and determine why this could be happening.

Less of a Social Life

Teenage problems that include the loss of friends or an abundant social life this can greatly affect their self esteem. If you child doesn’t talk on the phone as much as they used to or hang out with friends as much on the weekends anymore, there is nothing wrong with digging a little deeper to determine what the problems might be here.

Locking Themselves in a Room

If your teenager doesn’t spend time outside of their room and refuses to include themselves in family functions, there is a good chance that they are dealing with confidence and self esteem issues that need to be addressed.

How to Help Struggling Teens

There are a number of ways that you can incorporate some help for the teenage problems your child might be dealing with. The first step is to simply talk to them about it. You might be surprised at how much you learn from a conversation about this. It’s important not to push them or to be judgmental because this can push your child further away. Instead just leave a door wide open and let them walk through in their own pace.

Getting professional help for teenage problems is a great way to handle the struggles that your teen might be dealing with. You can implement family counseling or simply find someone for your teen to talk to alone. This allows them to feel comfortable talking to someone who isn’t biased about their situation and who they can trust not to judge them or become disappointed in them due to their feelings.

Giving your struggling teen an opportunity to choose how they want to handle their problems can also work well. Of course, if they don’t want to do anything about it then you should do what you think is best as a parent. If this means forcing them to attend at least a couple of meetings with a counselor, so be it. Don’t let self esteem become a major factor in the way your child spends their teenage lives.

Teen Depression & Self-Esteem

How Teen Depression is Related to Teen Self-Esteem

Teen Depression and Self EsteemTeenager depression is nothing new, but when teens are feeling blue, their self-esteem suffers just as much as their emotions. There are many reasons to why this is occurring, but there are three areas that the depression resonates from: school, the internet, and home. Each one of these is out of a teen’s control, unless they brought the pain upon themselves. Regardless, teens and depression have become part of the mainstream and it’s not a good thing.

School was once a place that kids went to learn and socialize with friends. However, some teens these days would rather be home schooled and socialize with friends over an online video game. Aside from bullies, school brings the same kids together for 180 days out of the year. Once a teen is teased or embarrassed for something they said or did, this forces the teen to deal with the same ridicule every day after.

It’s like a tragic scene from a movie repeating itself over and over again and doesn’t stop. This can almost diminish a teen’s self-esteem to nothing if left unchecked. It doesn’t have to be for the same reason either. The fact that they’re being picked on every day is enough to keep the depression going. With teens on the internet more often than they were in 2001, places like Facebook and Twitter have become new avenues for bullies and other classmates to trash each other. Some do it anonymously, while others prefer to let themselves be known by everyone.

It’s no different from the teasing and trash talk from school. The only difference is where they do it and how often. While the ones teasing the teens may not send messages directly, they’ll post updates calling them out by name. This can go on for months and build over time. It’s as bad as having 35,000 people calling you every offensive word that exists nonstop. That’s another one of the ways a teen’s self-esteem can be damaged.

At home, teenager depression can be caused by whatever is going on at home. Deaths in the family, domestic situations, sickness, and work ethic can affect a teen’s self-esteem as well. Pushing them to make straight A’s can backfire, especially if the parent believes or sends the message that their teen will become worthless if they don’t. This happens when a teen with parents like this get angry at them for get an A- instead of an A+, which lowers the teen’s self-esteem and their grades as well.

Teenage depression is a tough thing to deal with, but there are ways to make things right. At home, adults can make things better by being more involved in a teen’s life other than school and work. If they have people on Facebook posting hateful messages online, help them get some positive ones to balance it out. If the problem is just at school, tell the principal to put a stop to it. Teenage depression will always exist, but it doesn’t have to affect every teen and their self-esteem.