Building Your Kid’s Confidence

SONY DSCRaising children is not easy, especially in today’s challenging environment. So many things can affect your kid’s self-image that regular trips to hair salons just aren’t going to cut it. You need to boost your kid’s sense of self now to help them become socially adjusted and successful adults in the future. Here are some ways for building your kid’s confidence.


Make them feel loved

Kids always need to feel loved at home. It is how they develop a sense of worth. As parents, we often forget to show them how much we love them because we are working so hard to give them everything they need. The things we give or the fantastic yearly vacations we bring them on are not important. It is the five minutes at breakfast we spend asking them about their plans for the day, and the minute we take to tuck them in and kiss them goodnight. What matters is an encouraging nod when they are not doing well, sympathy when they fail, and acknowledgement when they succeed.

Give them structure

Rules give your kid a sense of security. It may seem the height of cool to be a friend to your kid, but young children need you to be a parent more than they need a friend. Give them rules to live by, and this will give them the structure they need to build upon. Explain to them the consequences of their actions when they break the rules, and follow through no matter what. Giving in to what your kid wants will backfire on them and you in the end.

Encourage them in their inclinations

Don’t impose your own ambitions and expectations on your kids. Give them the freedom to develop their own interests and support them in whatever they choose to do as much as you can.

Kids are resilient, and they are full of possibilities. If you do your job as a parent in developing a confident kid, then you should have nothing to worry about for their future.

Self-Esteem Is More Than Body Image

Self-Esteem Is More Than Body Image

self-esteem, teen depressionTeenage problems can be much bigger issues than we as parents might think. In fact struggling teens can display many different signs of low self esteem that we simply overlook because we don’t recognize them. With this in mind, it’s important to understand some simple signs to look for in your teenagers when it comes to depression, low self esteem and an overall unhappy persona.


When your struggling teen tends to get jumpy and defensive during regular conversations, they may be feeling like they need to defend themselves due to a lack of self esteem and confidence. Asking your teen for their opinions and making a point to respect their views when talking to them can help with this issue.


Most teenagers display some signs of irritability and rebellion while growing up but then the mood swings become intolerable or start showing up more often than not, it’s time to take a step back and determine why this could be happening.

Less of a Social Life

Teenage problems that include the loss of friends or an abundant social life this can greatly affect their self esteem. If you child doesn’t talk on the phone as much as they used to or hang out with friends as much on the weekends anymore, there is nothing wrong with digging a little deeper to determine what the problems might be here.

Locking Themselves in a Room

If your teenager doesn’t spend time outside of their room and refuses to include themselves in family functions, there is a good chance that they are dealing with confidence and self esteem issues that need to be addressed.

How to Help Struggling Teens

There are a number of ways that you can incorporate some help for the teenage problems your child might be dealing with. The first step is to simply talk to them about it. You might be surprised at how much you learn from a conversation about this. It’s important not to push them or to be judgmental because this can push your child further away. Instead just leave a door wide open and let them walk through in their own pace.

Getting professional help for teenage problems is a great way to handle the struggles that your teen might be dealing with. You can implement family counseling or simply find someone for your teen to talk to alone. This allows them to feel comfortable talking to someone who isn’t biased about their situation and who they can trust not to judge them or become disappointed in them due to their feelings.

Giving your struggling teen an opportunity to choose how they want to handle their problems can also work well. Of course, if they don’t want to do anything about it then you should do what you think is best as a parent. If this means forcing them to attend at least a couple of meetings with a counselor, so be it. Don’t let self esteem become a major factor in the way your child spends their teenage lives.

Develop Positive Teen Self-Esteem

How to Develop Positive Self-Esteem in Your Teen

How to develop positive self esteem in teens
Having a high self-esteem teen is easier if the parents start building the child’s self-esteem from the beginning.  Raising teenagers is not always easy, but it helps if parents instill the proper tools during the learning process.  In addition, ask any teenager and he or she will say being a teenager is not easy either.

Every parent is proud of his or her child and as the child grows into a teenager, the parents are no less proud of him or her.  However, as children grow to teenagers they begin to become confused and feel less sure of themselves.  This is where the parents need to realize the signs and make sure to show their teens his or her self-worth.

If a parent can keep their teenagers believing in themselves they are sure to be self-esteemed teens.  Keeping your teen’s self-esteem up is as easy as complimenting them every day about something.  No matter how big or small, letting your teen know you truly see them is always a good step to building esteem.

Raising teenagers is somewhat hard at times.  Teens can keep things hidden and are less likely to open up about personal things.  With all the growing pains and new things, he or she thinks and feels, they start to withdraw and try to figure things out by themselves.  It is up to the parents to know their teens well enough and recognize when he or she needs encouragement.

Encourage the teens to open up and be and do whatever will make them happy.  Do not set limitation on what he or she is capable of doing.  Show them through loving them, backing their feelings up and letting them know that their opinion counts.  Praise the small things as well as the big things.

Sincerely listen to what your teenager has to say.  Even if as a parent you feel the problem the teen is speaking of is not a big deal let the teen know they are being heard.  Show compassion and understanding and validate their feelings.  With hormones raging and new experiences a teenagers self-esteem falters regularly and hearing someone understands them is sometimes all it takes to boost their self-esteem back to where it should be.

As a parent, do not try pushing your expectations onto your teenager.  Giving advice and helpful suggestions is fine, but do not try forcing a teenager to adhere to your point of view on things, or push them to be and do what you think they should.  Keep open communication and let the teenager know what your ideas for them are, but also let them know, as a parent you are open to his or her thoughts as well.

There is no golden rule that works on every teenager, and every teenager goes through things at his or her own pace.  School is the hardest place for a self-esteem teen.  There a teen has his or her peers to deal with, and they are going through their own growing pains.  A teenager’s peers are the first to give a blow to their self-esteem.  Sometimes they do not care if feelings are hurt because they are only thinking of their own feelings.

That is why it is so important for the parents of self-esteem teens to stay informed and know when something is wrong or out of sync with their teens.  No matter what happens out in the world to your teen, he or she needs to have the knowledge of knowing they have inspiration and security at home.  Raising teenagers may not be easy, but the best are raised with love.

Teen Depression & Self-Esteem

How Teen Depression is Related to Teen Self-Esteem

Teen Depression and Self EsteemTeenager depression is nothing new, but when teens are feeling blue, their self-esteem suffers just as much as their emotions. There are many reasons to why this is occurring, but there are three areas that the depression resonates from: school, the internet, and home. Each one of these is out of a teen’s control, unless they brought the pain upon themselves. Regardless, teens and depression have become part of the mainstream and it’s not a good thing.

School was once a place that kids went to learn and socialize with friends. However, some teens these days would rather be home schooled and socialize with friends over an online video game. Aside from bullies, school brings the same kids together for 180 days out of the year. Once a teen is teased or embarrassed for something they said or did, this forces the teen to deal with the same ridicule every day after.

It’s like a tragic scene from a movie repeating itself over and over again and doesn’t stop. This can almost diminish a teen’s self-esteem to nothing if left unchecked. It doesn’t have to be for the same reason either. The fact that they’re being picked on every day is enough to keep the depression going. With teens on the internet more often than they were in 2001, places like Facebook and Twitter have become new avenues for bullies and other classmates to trash each other. Some do it anonymously, while others prefer to let themselves be known by everyone.

It’s no different from the teasing and trash talk from school. The only difference is where they do it and how often. While the ones teasing the teens may not send messages directly, they’ll post updates calling them out by name. This can go on for months and build over time. It’s as bad as having 35,000 people calling you every offensive word that exists nonstop. That’s another one of the ways a teen’s self-esteem can be damaged.

At home, teenager depression can be caused by whatever is going on at home. Deaths in the family, domestic situations, sickness, and work ethic can affect a teen’s self-esteem as well. Pushing them to make straight A’s can backfire, especially if the parent believes or sends the message that their teen will become worthless if they don’t. This happens when a teen with parents like this get angry at them for get an A- instead of an A+, which lowers the teen’s self-esteem and their grades as well.

Teenage depression is a tough thing to deal with, but there are ways to make things right. At home, adults can make things better by being more involved in a teen’s life other than school and work. If they have people on Facebook posting hateful messages online, help them get some positive ones to balance it out. If the problem is just at school, tell the principal to put a stop to it. Teenage depression will always exist, but it doesn’t have to affect every teen and their self-esteem.

Celebrity Influence on Girls

Celebrity Influence on Girls Body Image

celebrity influence

Because teenagers lack much world experience they will often look at external sources to craft an identity. This leads them to looking towards celebrities and other famous people as a role model. While most do so in a harmless manner, others take the image they see in celebrities to the nth degree. They seek to duplicate a fantasy image into a reality as a way of boosting teen self esteem.

There is the main problem here: teen self esteem seeks to be built through duplicating the fantasy and public relations character of the celebrity. The image of the celebrity is not the real person. This sets the teen up for a great fall since they can never live up to a fantasy.

Again, life experience here is limited, which is why the teen will fall into a number of traps. Teenage girls, most famously, fall into the extremely difficult trap of having to present a body image that is next to impossible to attain. Often, this is the root of teenage eating disorders and even worse problems.

What the average teenage girl does not understand is that a certain look and image has to be maintained for a celebrity. Celebrities cannot look ëaverage’ or else they will lose much of what makes them special. As a result, enormous steps are taken to boost the appearance of the celebrity, which is achieved in ways that the average person cannot follow.

For example, a starlet training to appear in an action movie can invest 5 hours a day into working out. The average person most assuredly cannot. So, for teen self esteem to be built around such an image, it is more likely the teen will end up being let down. Again, the goals are too difficult to attain.

Such information is not articulated to teens. As a result, they end up having a very unrealistic body image in mind. (Again, that is where much of the teenage eating disorders emerge.) Because teens are never able to succeed in duplicating the figures they see in film and on magazine covers, they can fall into depressing or self-esteem crushing behavior. Such an approach does very little for improving their overall opinion of themselves.

Will this problem ever go away? No, human beings have been influenced by imagery in the arts for centuries. It is doubtful that human nature will ever change in such regards any time soon. However, there are ways that teen self esteem can be boosted despite the celebrity influence that they are constantly under.

In order to help improve teen self esteem, it becomes necessary that adults do what is necessary to inform teens of the lack of reality such imagery presents. No, it is not necessarily easy to do such a thing but it can be done with the proper effort and patience. In time, it may be possible to guide a teen to a more realistic outlook on the concept. This, in turn, can set the stage to increase teen self esteem.

Improve Teen Self Esteem

How to Improve a Teen’s Self Esteem

Improve Teen Self EsteemIt is all too easy for teenagers to feel that somehow they are missing the mark and they are not as clever or as attractive as their friends. If you have a struggling teen who feels that he or she just isn’t good enough then you may be interested in ideas on how to improve a teen’s self esteem. Most of us recognize that character and a sense of self is built in childhood but tend to forget that teenagers also watch everything closely and look for clues as to how they should be.

Children and teenagers absorb what is going on around them and then reflect it back at you. If someone is growing up in a home where there are heated arguments and even violence then it hinders that teenager’s chance of developing a solid sense of self and forming healthy relationships.

A child who is emotionally neglected and never praised at home will grow into a troubled teen who sees life as a continual struggle and themselves as of no consequence. A major problem for teenagers is the hormonal trouble that affects us all, which is why teenagers are so sensitive and the way you treat them can have either a damaging or uplifting effect on the self esteem and their sense of self. When you are dealing with a teenager, it might not always be obvious, but praise and words of encouragement when ever the opportunity arises, can have a lasting positive effect on that person’s self esteem and character development.

Most teenagers exhibit the Greta Garbo effect of wanting to be alone at points but this does not mean that you should disengage from them. You need to be able to give them space, as and when they need it, while at the same time being there, ready to offer words of comfort and advice as needed.

Teenagers are often harder emotional work than most four year olds and their behavior is often extremely erratic, due to the hormonal changes in their body. While you can pick up a four year old, give them a hug and put them to bed, it is not that simple with a teenager. It is difficult to give someone their own space, while at the same time being mindful that they need you to be there, ready to offer words of encouragement and maybe offer a hug.

Most teenagers feel unsure of themselves because they are standing on the threshold of the adult world. On the one hand they want to grow up and experience all that adulthood has to offer, while on the other they still need your ready ear, your guiding hand, and your approval. Parenting a teen is not an easy job but if you follow a few general guidelines you will end up with a well rounded adult with a sense of their own worth.