The Best Places to Sell Kids Stuff Online

By Kathy Schultz

baby-stuffEvery parent remembers the excitement of expecting their first child and the literally carloads of items needed to prepare for the big day. Cribs, baby monitors, changing tables, car seats, high chairs, clothes, linens, toys, nursery décor, swings and a host of other necessities filled the home and made baby’s first year or more much easier. But all too soon they’re outgrown or no longer needed, and often while they’re still in excellent shape.

Many families are able to hand down items or donate them to a charity. However, a lot of families really need to get a return on their investment to help afford the necessities needed in the next stage of childhood.

While consignment shops and garage sales are one way to earn back some of the money we’ve spent, in most cases these methods only get us a minimal return on our investment. For items that have barely been used and are still in great condition, why settle for pennies on the dollar? Savvy parents have learned one of the best ways make the most money on kids’ items is to sell them online.

There are many sites on the Internet that help you to sell gently used items. A little research will uncover where you can maximize your return on your dollar. Here are a few I recommend:

CraigsList

Selling on CraigsList is a great way to avoid shipping costs and seller fees on larger, high ticket items or very common items that fill consignment shops. With a presence in over 700 “cities” in 70 countries, it’s likely this site will help you connect with a buyer in your hometown. Criagslist makes it easy to upload items yourself, and users say that depending on the product, they can get as much as 50% of the item’s original retail price. On big ticket items like furniture and electronics, that can make a big difference. Be sure to include photos and use those keywords to maximize your chances of a sale. www.craigslist.org

Lolly Daisy

So what about those cute items that are personalized or monogrammed that, while still in excellent shape, are outgrown physically or emotionally? This is where LollyDaisy.com shines. New to the scene this year, Lolly Daisy connects you with buyers of new and gently used personalized items (clothing, backpacks, step stools, bedding, dishware, accessories, furniture, toys, art, etc.). On LollyDaisy.com, buyers can search by name or initials to find a match and even sign up to receive email alerts when you place a new listing on the site that matches the name and initials they seek. This means if someone is waiting to buy something with your child’s name or initials, they’ll know the moment you list. www.lollydaisy.com

Just Between Friends

If you are looking to sell off items like toys and baby care items in bulk, check out Just Between Friends. This company hosts large consignment sales events all over the country on specific dates throughout the year. Sellers sign up online, find the location and date of the event in their town, use online information to prepare and price items, then drop off items at the sale. A couple weeks after the event, your check shows up in the mail for the items that were sold, and they’ll even take unsold items to charity for you. This site is great for folks with little time to do the selling. www.jbfsale.com

ThredUP

ThredUP focuses on helping you sell kids and women’s clothing. A great alternative if you don’t have much time, this company will send you a self-addressed pre-paid bag for you to fill with the gently used clothes your kids have outgrown. Just drop off the bag off at your nearest UPS or FedEx location. You can choose to have them sell the items outright, or consign them. ThredUp will then upload and sell your items online for you. Once an item sells the company will pay you up to 40 percent (upfront payment) or 80 percent (consignment payment) of the sale price. www.thredup.com

Time is precious when raising children. Why waste it while trying to find the right buyers for kids’ items? Let these companies do the work for you and maximize the return on your investment. This will give you the time and money to get the next round of necessities for your kids. And maybe even a new pair of shoes for you.

Could Your Child Be a Cyberbully? Warning Signs and Prevention Tactics

“No, my child would never do that.” Would this be your response if your child were accused of being a cyberbully? If so, you’re not alone. For one thing, no parent wants to believe that his or her child is capable of teasing or harassing other youngsters. For another, cyberbullying is, by its very nature, a relatively easy behavior for youngsters to keep under wraps: With the click of a mouse or the swipe of a finger, the evidence disappears. And most concerning of all, it’s easy for kids to get caught up in this destructive behavior without initially realizing how dangerous and hurtful it is.

“Like it or not, the rapidly expanding digital landscape has allowed bullying to spread beyond playgrounds and school hallways to computer screens, smartphones, and more,” says Amy Lupold Bair, author of Raising Digital Families For Dummies® . “Since this is a pressing issue that can affect any family, it’s crucial for parents to be able to recognize the signs that their children may be cyberbullies, and to know how to handle and prevent this behavior.”

Specifically, Lupold Bair says, tweens and teens (and in some instances, even younger kids) who are engaged in cyberbullying often exhibit behavior changes, just as victims do. Watch for the following signs:

• Your child may stop using the computer when you come into the room or quickly change screens or tabs.

• Your child may sharply increase time spent on the computer or on a smartphone.

• Your child may appear stressed or secretive when using these devices, and may become anxious, upset, or excessively angry when you limit or take away access.

• Your child may be spending more time with a new group of friends, or might no longer interact publicly with a long-time friend.

“Regardless of whether your child’s behavior fits into any of these categories, it’s a good idea to proactively bring up the topic of cyberbullying,” Lupold Bair says. “Make sure your kids know what cyberbullying is, why it’s harmful, and what your expectations are for their online conduct. By keeping an ongoing dialog going, you’ll not only gain insight into the digital world in which your kids live, but you may also discover warning signs that your child’s online group is participating in these types of activities.”

Specifically, Lupold Bair recommends discussing the following topics with your children:

• Joking vs. harassment. The line between harmless joking and mean, harassing behaviors can often be a fine one, and younger children especially may have trouble recognizing when they’ve crossed it. Explain to your kids that any online behavior that makes another person feel upset, threatened, hurt, mocked, etc. can be considered bullying. If your child knows that one of his peers is uncomfortable with a specific online interaction—or if a particular online behavior would make your child feel upset if the shoe were on the other foot—it’s best not to participate.

• Appropriate online communication. While it may seem obvious to many adults, kids frequently don’t understand that what they write or share in a digital format can often be forwarded, saved, or accessed by others. On a continuous basis, talk to your kids about what is appropriate to share online and what is not. Put a special emphasis on why it’s important to keep friends’ secrets and personal communications private and where it is and isn’t safe to discuss these things.

• Standing up to bullies. Teach your children how to stand up to their friends to discourage bullying behaviors online, if they’re comfortable doing so. Make sure they understand the importance of not standing by while others are being bullied and help them find the words to tell their friends that they refuse to participate in these bullying actions.

• Limiting contact with bullies. Cyberbullying is often a group occurrence with more than one child playing a role and different participants contributing varying levels of bullying behaviors. Make sure your children know that they can often use blocking features on social media and chat sites to avoid online contact with bullies. Explain why being associated with a cyberbullying incident can have serious consequences, even if your child wasn’t the ringleader or even an active participant.

• Informing adults. Encourage your kids to talk to teachers, coaches, and friends’ parents if they don’t feel comfortable coming to you with concerns about their own online behavior, which may have potentially crossed the line into cyberbullying. Also, encourage them to inform authority figures if they know another child is the victim of cyberbullying. Tell your kids that if they’re uncomfortable coming forward because they don’t want to attract the bully’s attention themselves, an anonymous note left on a coach’s or teacher’s desk, for example, can still be a tremendous help.

“Don’t just assume that your child’s online activities are harmless, even if she’s generally a ‘good kid,’” Lupold Bair concludes. “Be proactive about discussing why cyberbullying is a major issue and how you expect your child to behave on all digital platforms.

“In fact, I recommend creating and having your kids sign a document called a Digital Family Policy,” she adds. “It should include rules and expectations for all technology use. Be sure to include information regarding how you define cyberbullying and what the consequences will be if your child crosses that line.”

Defining Cyberbullying: A Parent’s Guide

From Raising Digital Families For Dummies®
by Amy Lupold Bair

teen-phoneWhen most of today’s parents were growing up, bullying was largely limited to in-person interactions. For that reason, it can be difficult to intuitively and fully understand what our children are facing as they navigate the digital landscape.

In essence, cyberbullying comprises any digital communication, typically from one minor to another minor, with the purpose of frightening, threatening, embarrassing, or harassing a person. The most common form of cyberbullying is sharing a private text message, e-mail, or instant message (IM) with someone else or through a public posting. Cyberbullies’ tools are computers and smartphones and they plague victims via text, e-mail, IM, chat rooms, social media, and blogs.

Examples of cyberbullying behaviors include:

• Using websites to rank or rate peers according to criteria such as looks and popularity

• Publicly blocking someone’s participation in an online group

• Tricking someone into sharing embarrassing information with the purpose of sharing it digitally with others

• Creating a website with the purpose of harassing someone

• Creating a fake social media account to pose as another person and post untrue things about that person

• Sending threatening or mean e-mails, text messages, and IMs in chat rooms

• Posting embarrassing pictures of someone on a social media website

The effects of cyberbullying can be far more devastating for victims than traditional bullying because:

• Cyberbullies often remain anonymous, making victims unsure of how to protect themselves and whom to trust

• Victims often receive bullying messages via their home computer, taking away their feeling of safety within their own home

• Victims may be affected both at school and online, taking away two primary locations where teens socialize and interact

• Cyberbullies can reach a large number of people easily and instantly, making it possible for the entire world to see the behaviors and shared information about the victim

• Because cyberbullies don’t face their victims, the bullying behaviors are often more extreme than traditional bullying

• Cyberbullies can attack their victims frequently on multiple technology platforms

Many states have laws regarding cyberbullying, but current laws vary by state. To see where your state stands regarding cyberbullying legislation, visit www.cyberbullying.us/Bullying_and_Cyberbullying_Laws.pdf.